I finished the book. I think that it would be a great resource for someone who is trying to move out of the victim role or who might be open to some insight as to why they keep choosing the wrong boyfriends/girlfriends/spouses.
Unfortunately, DD is not ready & I can't help her get there. I have, however, already started using some of it in "drive-by conversations with DD14."
I especially like the 'bag of poop' as it fits DD so well, flinging it around whenever she's angry.
It covers being the victim & laying blame with everybody/everything else. Using your diagnosis &/or bad childhood as an excuse. Perfectionism as a way to prove that you can't be the problem. Self esteem is
earned by setting goals, working hard, risking failure & ultimately achieving your goals. "Happiness does not come from what you
get, it comes flowing from what you
give."
Some of it is counter to what current psychologists are saying & somewhat controversial - but then, so is attachment therapy.